Clinical Director of In Harmony Detox Protocols
Wow! Can you believe another year is almost over! I know my year has been a blur at times...achieving milestones and taking a few steps back too. I'm so glad this is a journey, and not a destination. Every morning can be a fresh start with a new outlook. And, the world we find ourselves living in is on a fast track of evolution as well.
So are you making some resolutions???? Lose some weight, get a new job, find a new love???? I've left the resolution-making some years ago. I found it usually was an act of frustration which ended in guilt and shame. So now, I find a DAILY resolution is a better fit....the idea is fresh on my mind and when (not if) I slide, tomorrow is another day. It is all a learning process, not PERFECTION.
I've started reading a book by Brene Brown, The Gift of Imperfection. I'll have to say, the timing of this book in my life is astounding. Let me explain why, and maybe you will relate...
So, perfection....you know for 99.99999% of us, this is the GREAT ILLUSION. Unattainable and totally a game of perception, perfection is the vehicle of poor self-worth. And the worthiness quotient is the big predicter of the happiness sum. Earlier, when I mentioned resolutions....why do we want to lose weight, find love, get a promotion....bottom line, to be happy or happier. We think attaining a sought after goal, acquiring SOME THING, will make us happy. Why don't we just decide to go straight to HAPPY?
In Brene's book, there are 3 facets of embracing imperfection to heighten our self-worth, which is how we go straight to HAPPY. These facets are courage, compassion, and connection. Allow me to expand on each....
The word courage comes from the root word for heart and actually means to open one's heart for all to see. This is pretty heroic, don't you think? Allowing you to see me with all my flaws and faults, and being ok with it, builds confidence and self-worth. It also encourages others to do the same. Dropping all pretense and masks, we'll find ourselves being more supportive and non-judgmental...of others and ourselves....which segues into....
Compassion. This is not feeling sorry for someone or something. It is feeling with them, no judgement, no trying to fix, no joining the pity-party. Listening with the only intent of being "with" the person or issue. And let's not forget compassion for OURSELVES. Remembering the extraordinary person in the earth suit we arrive in...that Authentic Self...that came here to shine, but has human layers to release on this journey...compassion for ourselves is paramount to achieving a sense of self-worth. And that listening thing leads to the next facet...connection.
Connecting face to face, within "touching" distance, no texting/tweeting. True connection, heart-to-heart, is not just communicating. It is touching another open heart, courageous enough to drop the mask and open to be seen. And you know, when the heart is open, it can receive the healing energy of love, and send it right back out.
So let's change the world, one moment at a time. Happy New You! You are WORTH it!